On Monday, I wrote on the idea of friendship being seasonal and the pursuit of “that friend group” being something we shouldn’t feel like we have to strive for once we move into adulthood, and I think it home a bit. In less than 24-hours, that post had been read over 500 times.
Friendship is something we all desire, and it’s not foreign to just high school students. In fact, God made us that way. We were created to be relational—both vertically with Him, and horizontally with one another. Sin affects relationships. You know this. I’m preaching to the choir.
Acts 2:42-27 is a beautiful picture of believers doing life together. And as they did this, God would do incredible things in their midst for His glory and their good.
So, in one sense, God made us to be in relationships with each other, finding joy and personal growth through the relationships he gives us, but we shouldn’t desire this “friend group” to be inclusive for the span of our lives. That’s a cultural view, I think. Friendships come in and out of our lives as fast as the changing of the seasons. And, again, I think this okay. I think this is how God made it to be. Seasonal. For the purpose of godliness. Growth. The encouragement of others. Joy. And much more.
However, as I thought through the concept of friendship—and why we desire it so strongly—I can’t help but ask why we’re so focused on finding friends, or friend groups, or someone in which to belong? When do we get to the point where, instead of seeking out friendships for others to pour themselves into us, we are seeking to pour ourselves out into others?
There comes a point in our sanctification where we think more like spiritual parents than like spiritual teenagers, though maybe it’s never truly this way.
After all, iron does sharpen iron, right?