There are no amount of resources that can prepare us for leading our families well during the evening that compares to the indwelling of the Holy Spirit in our lives. Being a dad and husband is an incredible honor; it is also an incredible amount of work. I talk with men often about the struggles of withdrawal, laziness, and lack of energy during the evening… when our families need us the most.
I recently wrote an article for The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood concerning how to prepare yourself in practical ways for leading during, what one might call, “the second shift of our days.” I also call it “the most important part of our day.”
Here is an excerpt:
I once had a leader I respected tell me that he doesn’t listen to music while he drives because he returns phone calls. At one point in my life, I thought that was a great use of my time, so I began to return missed phone calls as soon as I turned over the ignition. As I drove down the road, I would solve the world’s problems, catch up with old friends, and make quick decisions so I could continue from phone call to phone call.
I quickly found out that this use of time was not the best idea for me. As I walked through the doors of my house, I would find myself still in work mode, often times potentially still on the phone. Throughout my drive, I had done zero preparation mentally and spiritually to walk through doors and take dominion over the most important part of my day. This was extremely unfair to my family, who was eagerly awaiting my attention as I arrived home.
As a result, I began to use my 20-minute drive home as preparatory time.
No music. No podcasts. No sports radio. No phone calls. Just me. Just quiet. Just time with the LORD.
This began to prove itself invaluable.
It was almost as if I was back in the locker room, with my headphones on, listening to the most get-hyped rap music I could find, as I prepared myself to take the basketball court.
Instead of the basketball court, however, I am now preparing myself for the greatest battlefield of them all—my home.
During this time with God, I am preparing myself to do everything but sit down on the couch and act like this is “my time.” It’s not my time. We don’t have “our time” anymore as men. As dads and husbands, “our time” is when everyone is in bed. And most of the time, when everyone is in bed, we’re too tired to have “our time” anyways, which leads me to my second point…
You can read the full article here.